Discuss These 4 Things Before You Get Married
Love is not enough…
Some people just want the attention of having you without the responsibility of being committed to you.
Read that twice.
I’m not a mind reader, but I do have a quiet experience hearing directly from men and women some common complaints about their married lives.
During my time as a dating coach, hundreds of thousands said straight to my face that it’s horrible. Things didn’t work out as they should.
What started as a beautiful love story turned into a horror movie. It’s like being in a house of terrors. Scary moments!
And I was not surprised, at all.
Do you know why?. Well, I will tell you…
They didn’t consider those important components to be discussed and assessed before jumping in.
You can’t succeed once you skip steps.
Okay, fear not my friend, I didn’t write this article to scare you.
I just wrote it to give you those necessary things you need to consider before you decide to get married to someone.
Are you ready?
Let’s get started...
Discuss These 6 Things Before You Get Married
How You Deal With Conflicts
Don’t get me wrong here, I don’t say you should pick an angel. What am trying to say is you should highly pay attention to how your partner is handling conflicts.
Conflict is a part of any relationship story but how one is handling that’s something you should focus on.
If he/she is too aggressive and always shows a victim mindset then that’s a clear red flag. You don’t need to think twice about that person. Getting married will be a very dangerous move you could make.
To be adult in relationship is not be conflict-free, it’s to resolve conflicts mindfully.
David Richo.
How Will You Raise Kids
You are going to be responsible for every disaster happening in your life. Especially once you will raise miserable kids.
This may sound harsh but I didn’t write this article to coddle you. I wrote it to help you by giving important things you should keep into consideration with your partner before getting married.
You should assess his/her level of aspirations with kids, parental guidance, and upbringing style. If he/she has ZERO value to bring on a table about that then he/she is not the one. You don’t need to waste your precious time.
His Behavior about Finance
What most people seem don’t to understand is that one can fck up entire life by just hanging out with someone who has ZERO discipline when it comes to financing.
Deciding to get married to a partner who has no financial discipline is like drinking poison and thinking you won’t be affected. Don’t do this first-class mistake. Get along with someone who has money discipline on how to use it and investing as well.
CONCLUSION:
I could keep on talking but at least you get the idea of what is really needed for you to make important decisions about your life when it comes to who is the proper choice to get married with.
Love is not enough. You need to consider other important aspects which others kept overlooking them that’s why they are in a mess.
